Boruch Hashem, obedience is within my nature, hence it is a lot easier for me to follow rules (many friends thought I am some kind of tzadik, when the reality is, I just have a different kind of animal then them 😉, as I will explain).
Only a while after Yeshiva did I realize that it is important to find out my distinct personality, as well as be aware of the plethora of personalities. It is important both for the sake of shidduchim, to have a better idea who am I more likely to have a משיכת הלב to, and for the sake of finding a keili for parnoso, or what we call a career path or even a shlichus. Someone pointed out to me that חובות הלבבות writes that the keili should be something that the individual is naturally drawn to, which implies that each individual has to know what he would be good at and what he would like. For many this comes easy but for some, like myself this did not come easy.
The rulebook of Chabad says, be the Rebbe's shliach, or at least become a teacher.
What I didn't realize is the full import of being a shliach, one has to understand what it means financially, one has to be on the same page about it with one's spouse, and one must be very ambitious and determined to go through hardships and not to wait for the perfect option to appear....
In addition, when one knows his natural strengths particularly in how he benefits others, it will give him more confidence to use his nature to help others in his shlichus and they will appreciate him and support him for that. The fact is that this is how one chooses a career. He determines where will he be of most benefit to others, and he can charge for that value, so for a shliach he can use it to help and ask people to support him for that, it shouldn't be much different. Other than the fact that one has to raise enough to start out for the first couple years and then after he makes an impact he can get people to support him. Once one has a larger family this becomes much more difficult...
This is one of the (perhaps most important) things I wish I was told when I was younger
I therefore feel it imperative to let others know and perhaps it will reach someone who can benefit from this.
Recently I went through a program which taught me that a very good way of determining my character, what I am good in, and how I can benefit others, is by thinking through the past many years and reminding myself of the times I helped someone else out and was excited about it, and see what it is that I was excited about. Also by getting a nice of family and friends to write down instances in which I helped them and where they saw me thoroughly engaged. This gave me a perspective of how others view me, which I believe is very beneficial.